officiantlindsey@gmail.com

officiantlindsey@gmail.com

A little bit of background about me: 

At my heart, I trust in the power of love, I am surprised by love, I am grateful for it.  Love uses many languages.  In crafting your ceremony, I listen deep to find the best words to express the power and pleasure of the love that you have found in one another.

I am an ordained minister in the UCC - a progressive protestant denomination. For me, this ordination means I work and play in ways that nurture love, community and hope. As your potential officiant, it’s important for me to express that while I was formed in Christian tradition, my personal spirituality is much deeper and wider than a specific organized religion. The ceremonies I craft tend toward the "spiritual but not religious" using language that comes out of my conversations with you. 

I love helping couples express their love. 

I use my skills in listening, writing, and public speaking to craft a ceremony that is meaningful, personal, and conveys both the depth and joy of marriage.

I’ve been officiating 6 years. And I’ve gotten to marry so many different couples. Nettie and Matteo were my first wedding. Interestingly, their wedding at the Renaissance Center in Amherst and I was living in CT at the time. But now I’m Northampton based! Matteo was my neighbor growing up in Salem, MA.  I loved working with them. They are whole hearted people. I was nervous, having never done a wedding before but we had done a lot of prep work, many conversations so I trusted the words I had crafted. It was an outdoor ceremony. I remember being particularly moved that Nettie and Matteo wanted it to be stated out loud, that they acknowledged the great privilege they had in being able to enter a federally recognized legal married a while their gay and lesbian friends and family members were not yet afforded that same right. As they entered the beginning of their marriage, they recommitted themselves to working for marriage quality. 

Eric and Carin had a surprise wedding! Yep. Carin is a violinist and occasionally will put on recitals. So she had sent out specific invitations to her friends and family to come to her recital, in a little church in CT.  I was in on the secret, as was Eric, their two key support people, and the organist!  Everyone had gathered and were waiting for Carin to come in from the side door to the chancel area to play. Instead. I walked in from the side door. I said nothing just looked out to the end of the aisle. Rich, the organist, started playing Pacabel’s Cannon. People were looking quizzical. What is going on? Then Carin, full wedding gown on, walked in. There were many joyful tears on very stunned faces. It was a fun wedding!  

Marcia and Lynn had been partnered for many years - I think more than 20. They live in Ohio where same-sex marriage was not legal. As more states were beginning to legalize same-sex marriage, Marcia and Lynn decided they wanted honor their union with this legal recognition. I was living in CT at the time where marriage equality had been made law in 2008. So they planned a party in a train station turned art studio in Milford, CT. I even learned Tret Fure’s Wedding Song to perform for the occasion.  

Meera and David had a gorgeous wedding at The Vineyard at Florence in Florence, Texas, near where Meera is from. They are personally neither very religious or spiritual. But they wanted to honor the religious and cultural traditions of each family; Indian Hindus and New England Protestant. So we wove Hindu and Protestant forms together, along with readings from many friends.

Heather and Eran had a heartfelt, family-centered ceremony at Holiday Hill Camp in Mansfield, CT. After a painful first marriage, Heather was overjoyed, and deeply grateful to meet the love of her life in Eran. Eran was overjoyed and deeply grateful to have met the love of his life in Heather. They had created a family together over the previous several years. Eran parenting Heather’s two children, Merae and Jonas and eventually adopting them as his own. The ceremony was all about the family, celebrating that they are a team. Celebrating that they were and are each others’ people committed, with love at the very center, to being a family forever.

There are many more. Each couple is unique. Each couple brings stories that are beautiful, quirky, with a history and future, with pain and dreams. I do my best to listen. To ask questions that help you share your story with me so that it came come through in your ceremony.

Beyond officiating, I love good coffee (dark roasts) and beer (IPAs). I am a writer and singer/songwriter. And I spend a lot of time - probably too much - contemplating the meaning of life.