personal & significant ceremonies

WEDDINGS

My ceremonies resonate. They are meaningful and enjoyable.

I get to know you, how you understand marriage and how you speak of your love for one another.
This becomes the substance of the ceremony.

I aim to create ceremonies that are both lighthearted and serious, that reflect both the joy and commitment of marriage. 
I work with couples from a variety of religious and non-religious backgrounds. Most of the couples I work with describe themselves as spiritual but not particularly religious, or not really spiritual either. 

You know how pleasing it is to have a photo of you that you just really love? One that really captures you and as you look at it you realize to yourself, I am beautiful.  I want your wedding ceremony to be like that. With my words and presence, I hope to witness and celebrate you. 

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I love helping couples express their love. 

I use my skills in listening, writing, and public speaking to craft a ceremony that is meaningful, personal, and conveys both the depth and joy of marriage.

I’ve been officiating 6 years. And I’ve gotten to marry so many different couples. Nettie and Matteo were my first wedding. Interestingly, their wedding at the Renaissance Center in Amherst and I was living in CT at the time. But now I’m Northampton based! Matteo was my neighbor growing up in Salem, MA.  I loved working with them. They are whole hearted people. I was nervous, having never done a wedding before but we had done a lot of prep work, many conversations, so I trusted the words I had crafted. It was an outdoor ceremony. I remember being particularly moved that Nettie and Matteo wanted it to be stated out loud, that they acknowledged the great privilege they had in being able to enter a federally-recognized legal marriage while their lesbian and gay friends and family members were not yet afforded that same right. As they entered the beginning of their marriage, they recommitted themselves to working for marriage quality. 

Eric and Carin had a surprise wedding! Yep. Carin is a violinist and occasionally will put on recitals. So she and Eric had sent out specific invitations to her friends and family to come to her recital, in a little church in CT.  I was in on the secret, their two key support people, and the organist!  Everyone had gathered and were waiting for Carin to come in from the side door to the chancel area to play. Instead, I walked in from the side door. I said nothing just looked out toward the end of the aisle. Rich, the organist, started playing Pacabel’s Cannon. People were looking quizzical. What is going on? Then Carin, in a wedding gown, walked in. There were many joyful tears on very stunned faces. It was a fun wedding!  

Marcia and Lynn had been partnered for many years - more than 20. They live in Ohio where same-sex marriage was not legal at the time. As more states were beginning to legalize same-sex marriage, and as the 20th anniversary of their first non-legal union was coming up, Marcia and Lynn decided they wanted to make it legal! I was living in CT at the time where marriage equality had been made law in 2008. So they planned a party in a train-station-turned-art-studio in Milford, CT and gathered the people who had been near and dear to them all those years. As a little something special, at their request I learned Tret Fure’s Wedding Song to perform for the occasion.  

Meera and David had a gorgeous wedding at The Vineyard at Florence in Florence, Texas, near where Meera is from. They are personally neither very religious or spiritual. But they wanted to honor the religious and cultural traditions of each family; Indian Hindus and New England Protestant. So we wove Hindu and Protestant forms together, along with readings from many friends. They are gorgeous people and it was a grand, beautiful celebration. 

Heather and Eran had a heartfelt, family-centered ceremony at Holiday Hill Camp in Mansfield, CT. After a painful first marriage, Heather was overjoyed, and deeply grateful to meet the love of her life in Eran. Eran was overjoyed and deeply grateful to have met the love of his life in Heather. They had created a family together over the previous several years. Eran parenting Heather’s two children, Merae and Jonas, and eventually adopting them as his own. The ceremony was all about the family, celebrating that they are a team. Celebrating that they were and are each others’ people committed, with love at the very center, to being a family forever.

There are many more. Each couple is unique. Each couple brings stories that are beautiful, quirky, with a history and future, with pain and dreams. I do my best to listen. To ask questions that help you share your story with me so that it came come through in your ceremony.